Saturday, September 03, 2005
Yani, I hope you don't mind me talking about this below..
You know how guys tend to have insecurity problems when their girls earn more than them? I think many rgs girls are gonna have that problem with their guys. I can already foresee many of my girlfriends earning much more than their guys. We just can't help it, we're very driven and capable I guess. And especially in the malay community, where somehow, lately, I've not seen as many driven guys as girls. Where have all the high-income-earning-potential guys all gone to?
My cousin said that she'll never settle for anyone who earns lesser than her. At least, be on par la. But seriously, in Singapore, I think that's hard to find. Especially for an rgs girl. Thing is, I think that most of us rgs girls don't mind guys with a lower earning potential than us. (I think we are more or less resigned to that fact, and besides, we can more or less support ourselves easily without financial assistance from any guy) But still, guys have this whole pride thing about them. Most are not willing to sacrifice their ego for the fact that their girlfriends earn more than them. Guys are supposed to be the provider. They need to earn more than their girls. Otherwise, it'll look bad on them. I don't think most guys would sacrifice their pride to be with someone who earns more than him. He'd feel like she doesn't really need him. Unless of course, you're Sandy Cohen and wanna surf the waves in the morning while your wife is at work. Well, that only happens in the OC. haha..
For me, I just want someone to love me and pamper me and tell me that he loves me. Him earning more than me would be an added bonus (to not make me feel guilty for shopping so much). ^_-
Went out with my yani darling today! Happy happy! Had our dinner at Sakura.. yummmmmm! We ate SOOOOO much la!
lemon chicken, oats prawn, hotplate beancurd and tom yam soup! mmmmmmmm... slurp slurp. Then, to walk it off, we went shopping! How perfect! Food and shopping and my sista darling! (and
rhumba frap later on! haha) I bought many many bracelets! pretty pretty bracelets.. so cheap! I bought
six for less than 30 bucks~* not bad eh? yani rocks! (she asked me to say that.. haha!) I got 4 charm bracelets for myself, cos I couldnt decide which one I wanted! haha..
Oh yeah, me n yani almost turned up looking alike today! I was already in my black top and purple swishy swishy skirt. I was planning on carrying the bronze-ish charles n keith bag I bought last week. Then, 2 hours before I left home, Yani msged to say that she was carrying her gold bag! So, I was like, okay better not carry my bag then cos we'll look like
freak sisters who wears the same things. Then, at the last minute I decided to change into jeans instead. Thank god cos yani was wearing black top with purple skirt also! hahahaha.. nasib baik eh..
Anyway I want to write a short testimonial for my yani darling.. cos she's leaving for UK so soon la...
When I first saw her, I din't like her. hahahha.. We were classmates back in RGS, for 4 years. Anyway, I first saw her during orientation, in the hall. You didn't look too happy that I was talking to your friend. haha.. I thought you were just a big brat. (actually, you're still a brat right? okla, princess.. haha) But then, many instances brought us closer together. We started sitting together in class, back then when we had the hexagonal table classrooms, where we used to sit with huiching, keryi, michelle n hsienfei. We spent a lot of time together, and since we were the only malays in the group, we got closer.
But it was only later on, when malayfriends first started out, that I got MUCH closer to my yani darling, and sya n rozzie darling too. We did so many things together. All our spying activities. How malay classes were always a riot. How I'd always look forward to them, cos nothing beats the feeling of going to school because you wanna meet your friends. And it was largely due to Yani's very open and welcoming nature that all these happened. I can talk to my yani darling about anything and everything. I'm not afraid to tell her all these things because yani is always honest and will tell u directly what she thinks about them without holding back. And that's what I love about her. How she can be so direct and yet so lovable! hehe..
Yani is also my academic rat race partner! Ok, I used to think that I was darn smart and could get away in sch without studying. Until the terrible F for history back in sec 3, which jolted me out of my sleep. So I bucked up after that. And it was wonderful to have yani around, as someone to spur me on. Cos I always wanted to do better than her! haha.. I remember how we used to fight to see who could score higher for maths. (even though we both already had As, it was just a matter of who had the higher A) haha..
Even now, Yani is always there to direct my focus back to the right track. She'll always remind me of how capable I actually am, instead of just settling for less. We're gonna be
superpowerwomen babe! =) And Yani is really one
superpowerwoman la. She can balance her studies, her life, her shopping, her friends, her bf, her family and her job without sacrificing much of each. All that, while retaining her identity and being true to her self. Now you tell me, how many people can do that?
Okla, this is starting to sound like friendster already. Anyway you get my point right? haha.. Yani your head don't get big ah. =) But I'll still love you anyway!
*hugs*
Posted by missymarsie at 12:22 AM
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